FROM FOSTER PARENT TO ADOPTIVE PARENT
FOUR WAYS TO MANAGE
THE EMOTIONAL ROLLER COASTER
© 2009 By Deborah Beasley ACPI CCPF
While there are similarities in private and overseas adoptions, foster parents who seek to adopt a child or sibling group already in their care share a unique and sometimes uncertain adoption experience. Here are four ways to help you manage the emotional roller coaster, so you can step off the wild ride, and keep your feet on level ground.
EMOTIONAL PERSPECTIVE – Be honest with yourself about your child’s actual chances of reunification or adoption.
EMOTIONAL FOCUS – Enjoy every moment you have with your children in the present moment, without dwelling on the past or fearing whatever may or may not take place in the future.
EMOTIONAL PURPOSE – Nurture an open heart and a positive state of mind, by journaling, using positive self-affirmations, or creating a photo Life Book of your child’s journey home to you.
EMOTIONAL BALANCE – Acknowledge your highest hopes and your deepest fears to someone you trust. Everything gets easier when you share it.
The adoption process is a well known long and emotionally challenging one for prospective parents. With PERSPECTIVE, FOCUS, PURPOSE, and BALANCE, it is possible for you to create greater emotional success when fostering to adopt.
Deborah Beasley is an ACPI Certified Coach for Parents and Families, author, presenter, and adoptive parent. Deborah is founder of Together At Last Family Support in Southern New Jersey improving the parenting experience of foster, adoptive, and special needs parents through education, parent coaching, and peer support. Contact Deborah through her website: http://www.TogetherAtLastFamily.com, or by phone: 609-970-1100.