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Successful Foster Care Adoption – Emotional Journey, Uncommon Love
“Imagine yourself traveling far from home on an epic adventure that will change your future and the future of a child waiting to become part of your life. Filled with hope and anticipation you know only the general direction in which to go and are not certain of your final destination. Your confidence comes from knowing you have a competent guide, and that your GPS is charged and leading you in the right direction and soon you will arrive safely home as a family with child in tow. Welcome to your adoption journey.” – Successful Foster Care Adoption Emotional Journey, Uncommon Love
This is a comprehensive guide to help you navigate state adoption and parent your adopted children. If you, or someone you know, are considering foster care adoption you need this book to guide you with success into your new roll as a forever parent ! Here is what others are already saying about this book:
“As a child protective services worker, we are not privy to the day to day emotions foster parents go through on their journey toward adoption. This book is insightful and moving. A definite read for anyone considering adoption or becoming a foster parent.” Daneisha A. Ballard, New Jersey
“This is a powerful, beautifully written and deeply felt book! This book should be mandatory reading in every state for any parent considering foster care and adoption!” Dr. Minette Riordan, Publisher of North Texas Kids Magazine
“This book is a very accurate description of the challenges faced by those considering state adoptions, and filled with practical advice and wisdom. Deborah tackles tough issues like childhood trauma, trust, and transracial adoption in a sensitive and realistic manner. This book fills a long-standing need and will help parents and the children they adopt develop the bonds that will contribute to the bulding blocks of an emotionally healthy relationship.” David Handleman, ED.D., Psychologist and Clinical Director of the Reagional Enrichment and Learning Center of New Jersey
Look for this book on Amazon.com soon. Pre orders are being accepted NOW, and I will sign the first 50 online copies sold!
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MULTIPLE TRANSITIONS: A YOUNG CHILD’S POINT OF VIEW ABOUT FOSTER CARE AND ADOPTION
This video was written and Produced by Michael Trout, Director of the Infant-Parent Institute in Champaign, Ill. (c) 1997.
It provides a real, I mean really real, look into the experience of a child in foster care, and insight into what such a child thinks being adopted is all about. It opens the foster adoptive parents to how the child views her or his world. This powerful video illustrates profoundly the content of many of the articles on this site. I hope it will have the added impact to create new prospectives in the understanding and handling of foster children everywhere.
Foster care as it exists today is psychologically and emotionally damaging. It will never be okay for a child to be in foster care. But radical improvements throughout the system can make it safer for children in state care. Fewer moves and long term care with better trained, screened, and monitored caregivers is a start.
This video is powerful and emotional. Settle in, folks. It’s going to be a bumpy ride… Deb
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CONSIDERING FOSTER-CARE ADOPTION?
Emotional Choice – Transformative Journey
©By Deborah Beasley ACPI CCPF
Adoption is a trip considered by some to be the journey of a lifetime. And so it is. Many travel this road to experience the most fulfilling of human conditions, becoming a parent. Others set out on this course because we so value what we already have that we are called, or driven, to participate in a movement much greater than ourselves.
Do these words resonate with you? Have you been thinking about adopting a child into your life? Are you wondering if adoption is the right option for your family?
Recent Increase in Adoptions
Statistics from recent years show increases in the number of state adoptions from foster care systems across the United States. Spurred primarily by changes in adoption legislation and state incentives from the Adoption and Safe Families Act in 1997, some states have doubled their number of foster care adoptions in recent years. These changes mean state adoptions have become easier to obtain, and the wait to finalization comes sooner.
While this is good news for parents who seek to adopt domestically, the numbers of children being adopted still fall far short of the numbers of those waiting. There is a pressing need of prospective parents willing to consider the adoption option. Additionally, laws enabling quicker adoptions help find permanent families and placements for children who spend far too many years being shuffled within our inadequate and undermanned foster care systems.
Adoption is a decision not lightly made. A determination often reached over the course of many years, and for many personal reasons. No matter what stage of decision you are at; you already know adoption is an emotionally charged choice. What you do not yet realize is how it will change your life. Adoption is a transformative journey.
As a former foster parent and an adoptive parent of two, I know you are feeling a mixture of excitement and apprehension. Because of this it is wise to take each step of the journey with care. These emotions are similar to the feelings you have when nearing the top of the first drop on a roller coaster. In the thrill of the moment your heart wants to go, but as the car reaches the top and is momentarily suspended before the vertical plunge, your brain starts to question what in the world you are doing here?
To facilitate the agreement of heart and mind, you need information to empower sound decision-making concerning whether adoption through the Child Welfare System is the right choice for you. You need information which will educate and prepare you for what to expect along the journey. For example; talk with others who have adopted through the foster care system to increase your insight into the process, and help you better understand the children in its care.
With Eyes Wide Open
Adoption is always about two journeys. For parents and children it is about traveling on parallel paths. One path is a journey of joy and gain; the other is one of sadness and loss. There are children in the system who carry within them unimaginable pain.
Where these paths merge they reveal a lifetime of acknowledging and letting go the pain of loss. The path is also about learning to trust the comfort and healing of a parent/child relationship. It is about learning to know and love each other.
I cannot tell you it will be easy. Success and struggle are often closely related. If the journey tests your courage; will you be ready to endure?
The End Result
That so many thousands of children around the world are available for adoption is a sign of our impoverished humanity. That so many persons around the world open their hearts and homes each year to embrace a few of these children is a lasting testimony to humanity’s enduring nobility.
Adoption is a loving choice. It must be an emotional and educated passage into a different way of life. It is one way to create family.
Should you decide to adopt, your commitment of love and acceptance to a child who needs you will be a revelation of what it means to have someone care for them without conditions. You will be the healing presence they need to become the children they want to be in the childhood they deserve to have. More importantly, you will be to a child the promise of wholeness, the hope of belonging, and the fulfillment of family.
Tell me if you have made the commitment to adopt? Have you recently had a child placed with you? I invite you to share your story of joy and gain; of sadness or loss. If you are an adoptee, please consider sharing your experience so others will understand your journey from your perspectives? Your story could help many. Thank you!
©By Deborah Beasley All rights reserved.
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If you are interested in more information about adopting a child from the Child Welfare System in your state, Deborah’s Ebook will supply you with the answers and information you need to make a sound decision. “From Foster Care to Adoption Navigating the Emotional Journey, A Parent’s Guide to State Adoption” is available now for $14.95! Pay securely through PayPal from Deborah’s main website: www.TogetherAtLastFamily.com. Click Foster Care EBook. The original price was $27.95, now is $14.95. Click the paypal button and download this Ebook at the sale price!
Filled with inspirational quotes, excerpts from Deborah’s own adoption journey, and candid illustrations from real life, this book calms the gnawing fears and doubts prospective parents experience on the way to adopting from foster care. It’s what you need to proceed!